Dare to Love Yourself

There is a wrong belief controls the life of lots of people especially women which is self-love equals selfishness and once there is an opportunity for us to enjoy ourselves and be happy, we feel guilty and think about alternatives to be done for our beloved people.

If you have an opportunity to enjoy a “me time”, you feel guilty, if you think of getting yourself a new dress, you talk yourself out of it and buy your son a pair shoes, instead. If a friend tells you to go to a hairdresser or getting a massage or doing any treatment, you hesitate and think that it is not important, although you are so stressed.

We are always tough with ourselves when we do mistakes or when not doing the tasks perfectly and we keep judging ourselves for not being good enough and start the cycle of blaming which always ends up with more disappointments and more mistakes. 

We usually allow the negative thoughts to control our lives, not only that, we sometimes navigate them in the social media of others by comparing ourselves to the people around us to the extent that sometimes we compare ourselves to people who are way ahead of us, which is very depressing and it confirms the negative thoughts we always repeat.

And the usual scenario is you overdeliver and one day you realize that you were taken for granted and no one cares about you. You start blaming yourself and others for something you are responsible for and it was your choice and then you start to look around you for happy people, great achievers, people who are enjoying their lives and you start to be more miserable because you will think that you wasted your life for nothing.

Please stop it!!! And start loving yourself, you deserve to be loved and being taken care of, you are responsible for your happiness not for the happiness of others, we are not encouraging you to be selfish but we want to tell you that sad people are conveying sadness, and happy people are conveying happiness, and if you want your beloved people to be happy, you have to start by yourself.

9 Key Tips to Practice Self-Love

• Treat Yourself With the Compassion You Would Treat a Loved One:
  We are always super kind to the people we love, stand for them in their hard times, or depressing moments, and always wish to have someone like us in our lives. Here you are!!!You are the best one for this mission, be kind to yourself as if you will be to someone you love.
• Have a dedicated “Me time”:
  Making time for yourself is essential, it’s your chance to reduce your stress level, build your mental strength and reenergize you. You could enjoy your “Me time’ in different things, starting from enjoying the silence, meditating, listening to music, reading a book, etc.
• Replace the Negative Inner Voice With a Positive One:
  Replace the negative inner voice with a positive one motivating one, and keep reminding yourself of talents you have, and your achievements and instead of telling yourself, “I am not good enough” keep telling yourself positive affirmations like:I am good enough
  I am a whole worthy person
  I can and I will
  I am the one for this mission, whatever the mission is
• Enjoy Nature:
  Enjoy nature, there is a secret about being in nature, it releases your stress, recharges your batteries and makes you feel happy.
• Work Out:
  Although workout is a way of losing weight and getting physically fit, it also changes your mood because when you exercise your brain releases hormones that make you feel happy.
• Take Time to Pamper Yourself:
   It could be as simple as having a long relaxing bath after a tiring day, taking care of your skin, getting a new haircut for a fresh look, or going shopping for new clothes.
• Develop a Habit of Rewarding Yourself:
  Like when you achieve a goal, get rid of a bad habit, or do a lot of work, reward yourself. It could be as simple as getting yourself a beloved kind of chocolate, an exceptional dinner, or even a motivating self-talk.
• Forgive Yourself:
  One of the characteristics of humans is making mistakes, and you have to accept that since you are human you will make mistakes, and you may disappoint yourself or others and you are not perfect. Start every day by forgiving yourself, with the intention of not repeating the same mistakes.
• Try Something New:
  Every once in a while, experience something new and push your limits, life is full of adventures and new things to try, just be courageous and give it a go.